What to Give a Norwegian for Christmas
I find that Norwegians aren’t big gift-givers (compared to Aussies), however, over the years I have received many strange gifts from Norwegians. I think Norwegians enjoy giving gifts to foreigners as they like sharing their culture. It is easy to be intrigued, if not surprised, at Norwegian gifts.
Some of the gifts that I have received over the years are very much appreciated but a little odd. Norwegian gift giving is one of the phenomenon that makes me remember just how strange Norwegians are. A bottle of wine is a common ‘thank you’ present in Norway (like most other places) but how about a Brazilian potted plant? After being a judge for a dance competition, standing there up on stage with a tropical plant complete with a ceramic pot in the middle of Winter felt a little odd.
Work normally throws a party or pizza night as a ‘thank you’ for a job well done (I’d much prefer a day off) and gives welcome gifts to new employees (being a stage manager I’ve received a leather-man, a pair of leather gloves and some steel capped boots!) Aquavit, the Norwegian made alcoholic drink, is also a popular gift for foreigners.
Friends and family have often made cakes or special cookies to say thank you. But there are a few prized gifts above all others that Norwegians like to give. One time near Christmas an associate of mine gave me a leg of lamb – a whole leg. I was a little embarrassed standing there with a dried lamb’s leg in my arms thinking ‘what am I supposed to do with this?’ A cured leg of lamb seems to be a very prestigious present to give. When you receive one from a Norwegian you know you are highly appreciated. Dried meats and Norwegian salamis such as moose or reindeer are common too. Another worthy gift is a platter of smoked salmon. There is certainly something weird driving home with a ‘thank you salmon’ on your lap. A common gift to foreigners is a woolen jumper with the Norwegian snow print (but I haven’t got mine yet!).
So what do you give a Norwegian for Christmas? What they give you, of course! Norwegians love getting plants and flowers, dried meats (a cured leg of lamb will give you extra brownie points) and alcohol. Norwegians appreciate hand-crafted presents, decorative glasses and plates and vases. For children and babies it is more common to give clothes. For Norwegians overseas anything that is a slice of home, brown cheese, Freia chocolate, marsipan or pickled herring will certainly win favour.
So good luck in getting your Norwegian a present. They can be very tricky to buy for. Two of the hardest people in our lives to buy for is Farmor and Farfar but here are some present winners that we have given over the years: a sterling silver ribbon pin (for holding a Norwegian flag ribbon on special occasions like 17th of May), pepperkaker cutters (in Norway reindeer, pigs, hearts and stars are standard so we gave kangaroo, koala, possum and echidna ones), a special bowl for grøt, garden gnome, a traditional wooden mug with a bush turkey handle (they are carved out of trees tumours to get its unique shape), decorative sofa pillows and a baking tray stacker.
Have you given a present to a Norwegian that won them over?





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Reindeer herding is more than just an occupation, it is a way of life and an integral part of the Sami culture and identity.
Our family activities have become traditional to the seasons…
A traditional Advent Calendar is made with an orange and cloves.
Many Norwegians know what they are doing when they pick wild mushrooms. This knowledge is passed down the family during mushroom hunting trips. The hard-core mushroom hunters go into the mountain wilderness for days to get the best finds.
There is an opposition in everything. At the darkest time of the year, we celebrate Christmas. And at the exact opposite end, when the midnight sun is at its highest, we celebrate Midsummer.
I think Dads are always challenging to buy for, and Lars’ Norwegian Dad is definitely no exception! Last year we gave him a winter workout top (which he wanted) that he wears all the time–around the house, skiing, working outside etc etc. HE CRIED! He seriously got so happy that he cried. It was all he really wanted.
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from L-Jay:
lol – probably the best part about the present was that he didn’t have to go out shopping to look for one himself
. (I loved clothes shopping until I came to Norway!)
I just have to tell you how much I am enjoying your blog. We are here in Norway for a year-long sabbatical, and you have given me so much insight into our neighbors and friends as well as this beautiful land. You are fortunate to have married into a Norwegian family and thus have an “inside” peek at the culture.
I’m wondering whether in your experience Norwegians give gifts to neighbors and friends at Christmastime. We have some lovely neighbors who have been so helpful as we get settled here (like translating the junk mail for me when we first arrived!). Should I give them a small gift for Christmas, would it be expected? Or would it make them uncomfortable? I have given a couple of particularly helpful neighbors small gifts from the US that we brought with us as a thank-you for different things they’ve done for us along the way. Back home I sometimes give a loaf of special bread or Christmas cookies to the neighbors, but I’m not sure what the custom is here.
thanks for any help you or your readers can offer!
p.s. tried your boller recipe yesterday with good results, and served the leftovers toasted with tyttebaer jam and brown cheese this morning. Yum and double yum!!
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from L-Jay:
Vær så god
Gift giving to Norwegians largely depends on your relationship. You need to have a personal relationship with them, not just a ‘hi/buy’ relationship for there not to be any awkwardness. If you can discuss family members or ask personal advice with a Norwegian then I’d say you could give them a small gift. If you go to their place for coffee or meet up regularly then it is a safe beat that small presents are ok. However, there are other friendship relations where it is awkward to give gifts. Norwegians have a habit of being friends with you but still keep things at a distance. If they don’t discuss themselves with you or family (and if they don’t complain to you) then your relationship might not be as close as you think.
The other thing that can embarrass a Norwegian when it comes to gifts is the price or trouble that went into the gift. Small, easy gifts are best for neighbours, ‘distant’ friends and colleagues. Also, safe presents are better – things that are familiar to Norwegians unless the present is a specific culture. A bløttkake is better than a chocolate eclair cake. A cured lamb is better than a peking duck. But Norwegians are very graceful. They will accept the present whatever it is (no matter the awkwardness). (However, I have found the older generation sometimes refuses gifts offering you to have it instead.) I’ve been told that it is the ‘obligation’ behind the gift that Norwegians don’t like.
It’s not expected of you to give them anything for Christmas, but you won’t get shot if you do
A huge present will probably make them a bit uncomfortable, assuming they are “normal” Norwegians, but a small, but symbolic, gift will always be appreciated, that is as aforementioned the famous bottle of wine or for instance some fine chocolate or even fresh ground coffee (from a specialist store).
The loaf of special bread or Christmas cookies, especially if they’re from your home country, thatt would make wonderful gift!
what a fun post! i spent the better part of this year researching my norwegian ancestors and thought it would be fun to give my mother (from whom i get my norwegian heritage) a norwegian christmas. i didn’t know about aquavit… i wonder if i can get it here in america?
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from L-Jay:
I’m sure Norwegian-American towns would have Aquavit, like in Minnesota.
You can get Aquavit anywhere in the states, even Florida!
Around here is not unusual to give Pork legs (as ham). Is common also to eat cod – almost everybody eats cod in the Christmas Eve. We are one of the biggest consumers of Norwegian cod.
But maybe the most common gift is the King Cake:
http://www.food52.com/recipes/2157_christmas_kings_cake_bolo_rei_portugal
Everybody has at least a King Cake at home and is allways a good (litterally) gift!
Hilsen
I’m still deciding what to get Andreas’ family for Christmas this year. They seemed to enjoy the Australiana stuff I sent last year, so I guess I can keep that up ’til I run out of native animals
Andreas wondered if the meat-giving was a northern-Norway thing, ‘cos he’s not familiar with the idea? We’re enjoying having all the same debates we had last year about when to decorate, when to put out presents etc.
He’s taken to playing Norwegian Christmas songs to set the mood.. I love “Spikke-sage-lime-banke” – Per Aspelin! Do you know it? Great stuff
I took some time the other day to read up about Christmas in other cultures, just for fun. It’s absolutely fascinating just how diverse the celebrations and traditions are. It’s hard to imagine living somewhere that doesn’t celebrate Christmas!
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from L-Jay:
In the past we have given many Australiana presents such as ugg boots, opals, kangaroo skin, kangaroo paw back scratcher, boomerangs, a didgeridoo and tim tams! They all went down well.
with the meat thing – the lamb leg was from Oslo, and the other meats were from Harstad and up (so Northern Norway) but people who gave them to me were from other places like Bergen and Trondheim.
We are starting to have more of an English Christmas here now as it is more convenient. The shops here work on an English Christmas schedule too so it makes it easier. We find it hard to keep the tree up past New Years as it feels like Christmas is just dragging on. Norwegian Christmas starts from 24th and generally goes to the 20th of January. Add the pre-Christmas spirit from the end of November and you have two months of Christmas cheer. By the time the New Year comes people want to move on (I know of some Norwegians who envy us finishing Christmas by New Years…lol).
At the moment we already have the tree up (instead of waiting for little Christmas Eve), stockings hanging over the fireplace and Christmas bon bons and candy canes but also a julebukk, advent candles and seven sorts cookies. I guess we are having a Norlish Christmas this year…lol.
I believe tradition is, at least in my family and it seems to be the same for people I know who live around Eastern Norway (Oslo, Akershus, etc.), that the Christmas tree and decorations for around the house are put up on 23rd of December and then it’s all taken down on the “20. dag jul” or the 13th of January. Some other people I know take everything down on “13. dag jul” (6th of January).
Personally I’ve never seen Christmas decorations up enywhere for as long as 20th of January, but I spose it’s just another one of those differences you see depending on where in Norway you live.
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from L-Jay:
Ooops – nup…lol. It was I mistake, one that I always get wrong. It is supposed to be the 13th of January – 20 days of Christmas. I always say 20th instead of 13th for some reason. Please forgive
Little Christmas Eve is the 23rd
cheers
Leaving in Petersburg, Alaska, also called”Little Norway” I can only agree with you, the most appreciated gifts are smoked salmon, cod, deer, moose meat or everything homemade like cookies, jellies, etc. and we love to give and receive them.
My move from Germany to a Norwegian town in Alaska was not as much of a major culture shock as people might think because of European customs still practiced here and the rural traditions of hospitality and giving useful gifts are very important.
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from L-Jay:
I didn’t know there was a Norwegian town in Alaska. But i guess it would be very similar to home
And yes, Norweegians appreciate practical gifts or gifts that beautify the home.
My personal gift giving coup was when I started making presents myself. The ultimate in desired gifts that I am forbidden from omitting is a sort of unholy fusion of caramel popcorn and burnt almonds.
I think they are going to be very sad that I cannot make it this year due to circumstances beyond my control.
Here in Texas we have a great Norwegian community. I had a friend visit from Norway after the 9/11 incident. He obtained some ammunition from a family member to take back home with him. He told me just as we were checking his baggage! He started to get worried that he was going to be arrested. As it turned out, he didn’t even get his baggage opened up! That was a close call.
Very interesting post! It sounds to me that the Norwegians are practical and why not say, creative? I live in Sweden and they give potted plants (of all sorts) in absolute every occasion. I remember going to my ex-husband’s uncle 70th birthday and he got so many plants that the house looked like a jungle! I thought then… what does a 70th-year-old MAN can do with so many plants? Maybe open a flower shop! In time I came from Brazil and there plants are not presents! Maybe flowers to women but occasionally.
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from L-Jay:
Interesting…lol. I think the weirdest plants that Norwegians give are cacti (in an Arctic climate). Farmor has a few of them on her windowsil.
Thank you for this post!
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I am visiting my boyfriend’s family in Oslo from desember 13-27, and I was having a difficult time figuring out what to get them for Christmas. This helps a lot!
I love reading your blog! I’m from Norway but I work at a travel agency specializing in trips to Scandinavian in the U.S (Brekke Tours) and reading this makes me feel so at home! Norwegians truly are hard to shop for! I shared your blog with all my co-workers so they can learn more about Norway
Thanks for writing!
I think that it varies of what norwegians appreciate as gifts, especially in different agegroups. I really doubt a 17 year old would appreciate a leg of lam that much… just saying.
I’m an exchange student in Norway and when I came it is encouraged that you bring your host family a gift.. I am from one of the largest wine-producing regions in the world (Yakima, WA, USA in the Columbia Valleys of Eastern Washington) I brought my host family local wines and they LOVED them. That was a pretty good one.